The Gift of Forgiveness
00:15 Mothers, we are glad you're here today and we thank God for every one of you and what a privilege it is to be a mother that we were going through the Bible and the Lord has just allowed us to come upon a passage of scripture that's about forgiveness. The Bible said, did came Peter to him and said, Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me? And I forgive him till seven times. Jesus said to him, I say that under the until seven times, but until 70 times seven, therefore is the Kingdom of heaven like a no to a certain king which should take account of his servants and when he had begun to reckon one was brought unto him and owed him 10,000 talents. But for as much as he had not to pay as Lord commanded him to be sold, his wife and children and all that he had and payment to be made, the servant therefore fell down and worshiped him, saying, Lord, have patience with me and I will pay them all.
01:18 Then the Lord of that servant was moved with compassion and loosed him and forgave him the debt. But the same servant went out and found one of his fellow servants which Altima 100 pence. And he laid hands on him and took him by the throat saying, pay me that Thou knowest his fellow servant fell down at his feet and besought him saying, have patience with me and I will pay thee all. And he would not, but when and cast him into prison till he should pay the debt. So when his fellow servants saw what was done, they were very sorry and came and told him there, Lord, all that was done. Then his Lord, after that he had called him, said Unto Him, Oh thou wicked servant. I forgave the all that debt because our desire desirous to me shut us down. Thou also have had compassion on that fellow servant even as I had pity on the and his Lord was roth or angry and delivered him to the tormentors so they should pay all that was doing him.
02:14 So likewise shall my heavenly father do also under you. If you from your hearts, forgive not everyone, his brother, their trespasses, father in heaven. I thank you so very much for your goodness and your kindness. Now, pray that should make this passage of scripture come alive and real in our hearts. I pray you'd help us to forgive our mothers, our dads, our brothers, our sisters, our neighbors, our family members, those who have hurt us intensely or accidentally. I pray today that you'd help us to leave with less hatred and bitterness in our heart, hurt, Goan, free, released from the pressure of all the things that have hurt us for so long and I give you great honor and glory and praise for all that you do. We love you and thank you. In Jesus' name. Amen. I'm looking forward to sharing this wonderful passage of scripture with you and I promise you, at least in my life, it allows us, some of the guys were working with me this week on it.
03:15 This passage of scripture is going to make a difference. Let God speak to your heart. Alright, take your bibles if you would, in turn to matthew chapter 18, what a privilege it is. Open the word of God and always find exactly what we need for where we are and what's going on in our lives. Would there be anybody here this morning that would be honest and say, man, I have headaches and stomach aches and muscle tension and joint pain and dizziness and tiredness. I can't sleep. I got officers high blood pressure. I'm no fun to be around. Did you know that forgiveness, a lack of forgiveness causes all of those things. Own Medical web pages. In fact, the negative power of feeling bitter so strong that the authors of one article called for the creation of a new diagnosis called pet ed, posttraumatic and betterment disorder.
04:10 I always got to come up with a name for it. Nothing to describe people who can't forgive others, transgressions against them, a lack of forgiveness which often occurs as a result of having been hurt, humiliated, angered, having suffered fear or loss. Feelings of guilt or envy can profound have profound effects on the way your body functions. It puts your body in a state of stress. Muscles tighten, causing imbalances are painted a neck back and Liam's blood flow to the joints is restricted, making it more difficult for the blood to remove waste from the tissues and reduces the supply of oxygen and nutrients to the sales. Normal processes of repair and recovery from injury or arthritis are impaired. Clenching of the jaws contributes to problems with teeth and joint pains. Headaches can become a problem. Chronic pain may get worse. Digestion is impaired. Breathing is more difficult in Paris.
05:11 You Immune your immune system and increases the risk of infection and sickness. In this passage of scripture, Jesus has got to talk to his disciples about forgiveness. Matthew Eighteen, we've been talking about the body and his family and the church and how we work together and he comes to this last part and he's going to teach us some major things. I hope you'll write down and consider with me straight out of the Bible. I am not picking on anybody. It's straight out of the Bible. If it seems to hit home, I'm glad. If you say, man, that seems to nail me. You just described my physical symptoms and you don't have to pay a medical fee bill after it's over, but you can right spiritually do you may go home happier today. First thing he says in the passage is we are to forgive. We are to forgive.
06:06 Look at Matthew Chapter Eighteen and verse 20. One Peter came and said to the Lord, Lord, how off shall my brother sin against me? And I forgive him? How about up to seven times the Lord said No. How about 70 times seven peter felt like he was being generous and he'd forgive so many times, but Jesus took it to the nth degree. How many of you know what the Nth degree is? Oh Johanna. I was working with some young people to say and the other day on this, and they said, what in the world's the Nth degree I at? That means they never took a math class, a man, but the nth degree refers to have the highest possible number. You see, we're to forgive beyond what anybody could ever understand because forgiveness is a way of life for us. The Bible says in Matthew Chapter Five and verse 39, that we are to not resist evil and said, we're the turn.
07:03 When they hit us on her right cheek, we turned our left cheek to them also in matthew chapter five and verse 40, if they sue us, we just go ahead and give him the coat to go. The cloak that goes with it. In Matthew Chapter five and verse 41, if the Roman soldier told them to walk them out carrying their pack, Jesus said, just go ahead and walk two miles while you're with them. In fact, isn't matthew 5:44? He said, I said to you, love your enemies. Bless them that bless them, that curse you, do good to them that hate you, pray for them which despitefully use you and persecute you. In other words, Jesus taught us to forgive. If you would agree that that's what scripture teaches, say man, the Apostle Paul emphasizes that in Ephesians 4:32 when he said, and be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another as God, for Christ's sake has forgiven you, so you are to forgive and be tenderhearted and merciful as God who for Jesus Christ's sake, for gave you.
08:08 We're following Christ example. The Bible says in Luke Twenty 3:34 is they nailed him to a tree. He said, father, forgive them. They know not what they do, so there's a lesson in the passage of scripture today we are to forgive as born again believers. We are to forgive. Now, no one could do that. No one could even understand that who hasn't experienced such a great salvation as we have this salvation and forgiveness story may seem so out of proportion. You can't believe it. The problem is if you aren't forgiven, you won't get the concept. Today's your day, you can trust Christ and I'm going to walk you through the lesson Jesus taught, but let me just say, I want you to think right quickly about whoever it is you're mad at. Is it your mother? I was when I was getting ready to prepare the message, I said, has anybody ever preached on forgiveness on Mother's Day?
09:09 So I went to Google and I said, forgiveness. Mother's Day, I couldn't believe it. Article after article said, it's time for you to forgive your mother. Wow. I always do. Everybody hated us. Dads. I had no idea. People hated their mothers and it was like, you should forgive your mother. Why? You should forgive your mother, how to forgive your mother. So evidently, at least across the United States of America, there is a mother forgiven problem, but if you forget that you're still others, maybe it was your uncle. Maybe it was your brother. Maybe it was your sister. Maybe it was your neighbor. Maybe it was somebody else. So Sunday school teacher. But all of us have been done wrong somewhere along the way, and we carry in our hearts this, this bitterness that is hindering us. And you're going to see that in the scripture today. But the first thing I hope you're right down alongside that verse is we are to forgive.
10:06 We are to forgive. So to explain his point, Jesus loves to tell stories. So he tells the story in verse 23, he's a storyteller and he tells a story of a King and his servants in verse 23, and he caused his service to come give an account to him. And he caused the men. All the both the servants in the story are his servants to the same king. This king here would represent God and he calls them in and the first guy came in and he owed his king 10,000 talents. 10,000 talents that we don't understand that that doesn't work in our generation, but he didn't have any way he could pay that. So. So you can understand it and they may throw some slides up, not sure. We'll let them see what they can do when they can do it, but 10,000 talents was about 200,000 years of salary for a working man or a one, a 400, 4,000, 255 people working in an entire lifetime could have paid off the 10,000 talents.
11:11 10,000 talents was worth about 750,000 pounds of goal. It would be worth about $108,000,000,000 with a b in today's money. The Servant couldn't pay that amount even if he had been given the opportunity. The Servant in verse Twenty Five, six falls down, starts begging. He's not singing praise songs right now. When we use that word worship here, it's like he's on his feet and his knees and he's groveling and he's begging. He says, Lord, please have mercy. Have patience and I will pay you so I can help you understand the story. Bill Gates Networth by Forbes magazine is approximately $79,000,000,000. He is the richest man in the world. The last, the latest Forbes update, his net worth Bill Gates net worth is worth more than the GDP of 140 countries. He is worth more than 140 countries. By the way, there are only 200 countries in the world, thoroughly. Sixty countries more have more money than Mr Gates, but if he paid all that he had towards the $108,000,000,000, he would still be $29,000,000,000 in debt. So He'd need another 104 countries to give him the money. Meaning that if gauged could pay all that he had, he'd have to get that much more money and if if he got paid, he would be out of debt but still homeless and destitute.
13:01 Just remember, you are not bill gates by a long shot. The point is in the story that the debt was impossible to pay and you owed a debt you couldn't pay either. It was Jesus who paid your debt. The salvation you enjoy. Is that something you could have ever done on your own? Salvation, the salvation. So here's the real story in this. In the story, the story is you're going to forgive and and you need to understand that the guy who owes 108 begun, that's me. Oh, 108 begun and I went to God and there's absolutely no way I could ever pay if my name was Bill Gates. Now I got rid of everything I had. I'd still come up nearly $30, billion short. There's like 140 countries looked him up yesterday like 140 countries that don't even have that much as their gross national product of the whole year. Even the 30 begun,
14:13 the simply asked to be forgiven and the king was merciful and look at 27, chapter 18, verse 37. The Lord of that servant was moved with compassion. What a sweet and wonderful king and loosed him and forgave him the debt. That's all that is done. That is all that is done. When you get saved, you realize you've send, you realize that you're unable to please God. You ask for grace and mercy from a God who loved you before you ever loved him, and he comes to you when you cut in and offers you salvation. That's what happened. When you got saved. Amen. You woke up one day and you realize, man, I would never ever fix this if I started right now and for the rest of my life I lived a holy and pure life and never did another thing wrong. I still couldn't make up for all the methods I've caused up until nail.
15:10 Well, the servant in the story that Jesus told who had been forgiven was still thinking Olivia himself. So he went and looked into money. You got to understand, he just goes in there. He owes $108,000,000,000 and he says to the king, King, I can't pay, and the king had threatened to sell his children to king had sent and sell his wife to king and threatened to put him in prison. The kid threatened all this with the king had mercy, but when he got up and walked out of there, he was still bitter and angry and he felt like people owed him and if he felt like I've been treated this way, somebody else want to get treated this way. So in verse Twenty Eight, that same servant went out and found one of his fellow servants who owed him a hundred pence and he laid hands on him and took him by the throat and said, you pay me what you owe me, and the servant fell down and begged him, and so please how patients, I'll pay it all. Now. One hundred pence will be less than 17 weeks of wages for working man. A Mcdonald's worker working one job could be debt free in less than six months and still be able to eat.
16:25 And that's what he owed. But the forgiven refused to forgive.
16:33 They're forgiven, refused to forgive. Look at verse 30 and he would not, but he went and cast him into prison until he should pay the debt. So here's the guy who got forgiven of a $100 and 8 billion, 200,000 life years of payment targe around to another guy who owns less than six months of payments, will not have mercy on the guy that did six months worth. But as sure glad you got mercy o $200,000. Others couldn't understand how a person who had received such great grace could be so cruel to others. You see there are people watching the whole story. They watched a man walk into the palace on 108 may begin assuming that guy would be put in prison, assuming he would lose everything, assuming he would be ruined. And they watched him walk out of that room, forgiven no debt, losing nothing, paying nothing all by mercy, all by grace.
17:33 And they watched him walk right out of the palace where he was forgiven. Find another man who owes him about $5,800 grabbing by the throat body slamming to the ground and say, you will pay me. And the guy said, please have mercy on me. And he said, no way, you're going to jail. So in verse 31, his fellow servants saw what was done and they were sorry, and they came and told her to the Lord. All that was done then the Lord, after he had called, said unto him, Oh thou wicked servant. I forgave the that debt. But because you asked me to your desired it, the king wanted to know how it was at the forgiven could still have such selfishness and hatred in his heart. The king wanted to know how they're forgiven, could still have such selfishness and hatred in his heart.
18:32 Verse 33, should us not. Thou also have had compassion on thy fellow servant, just like I had pity on you. It looks to me like after I showed you pat, you could have showed him pity. But in verse 34, he's turned over the tour minutes to receive what he actually deserved in God warns us that if we do not forgive, we will never truly enjoy their forgiveness. We have been. We have been given verse 35. So likewise shall my heavenly father do also unto you. If you in your hearts, forgive not everyone, his brother their trespasses, I think we all know the story, so we're gonna move into some real application and take that story and the plot, but let's review the story real quick. Just real briefly. We have a king who owns everything. We have a servant who owes $108, billion dollars approximately. He calls a servant entity, says, servants, you owe me and I want it paid right now in the servant says, I don't have it to pay, but if you'd be patient with me, I'll pay it.
19:41 Which was not possible in his whole lifetime. Bill Gates has gotten up to $79,000,000,000. He's going to need another $29 million dollars and you aren't Bill Gates. You're just probably a regular guy. You probably in this room, there's probably some pretty wealthy people, but I doubt there's any billionaires in here. There might be some small Michigan airs in here, but I doubt there's any billionaires and if you are a beginner, I would really like you to just throw us a little bit of money. We'll go ahead and build a building. They may, I mean some of you beginners come off of it. Amen. And so anyway, he comes out of the door. He finds the guy that owes $5,800, less than $6,000 that a guy could make payments on the 17 weeks at minimum wage, and he grabs him by the throat and says, I have no mercy on you and the Lord of the in the story Jesus said.
20:34 So the king called the first guy, put him on in prison. That's not a story about you losing your salvation, but it is a story about you learning to enjoy your forgiveness. It's not a story about you losing your, but it is a story about your learning to enjoy your forgiveness. So the third thing I wish you'd write down here is Jesus is teaching us how to forgive. Jesus is teaching us how to forgive. Matthew chapter six and verse nine. We forgive as we pray. When you pray, if you're a godly Christian and you've learned anything about praying, you know that when you pray, you follow this model somehow some distant form. You follow this model that Jesus gave in Matthew Chapter six and verse nine. After this matter, therefore pray our father, which art in heaven, hallowed be thy name. Thy Kingdom come, thy will be done in earth as it is in heaven. Give us this day, our daily bread and forgive us our debts
21:43 as we forgive our debtors. Forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors. In verse 14, he said, for if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly father will also forgive you, but if you forgive not men their trespasses, neither will your father forgive you your trespasses. Now, your salvation is not dependent upon forgiving each other, but the heart attitudes shown makes it clear that if you're not a forgive her, you will not reap the benefits of being forgiven. I'll show you what the benefits aren't admitted, but some of us had been forgiven and we shouldn't be enjoying all the sweetness of being forgiven and having a forgiving spirit and having a different lifestyle and bitterness out of our heart and hatred out of our heart and love overflowing in her heart. That's who we should be. That's not if you're still bitter, bitter, and hateful, though you are forgiven, then you're still in the prison of loneliness
22:41 and oscillation. Hurt that's destroying you in all around you. You might be forgiven. You might be on your way to heaven, but your own personal bitterness is keeping you in a prison that isolates you. You're isolated from your family. You're lonely, you're hurting, you're destroying all those around you. This isn't a work added your salvation but a truth revealing what happens in our hearts as we selfishly seek for our while not for others. You may be forgiven, but you will never get the blessings of being free from the guilt to you. Surrender your right to hate others and here's what happens. He said, he forgave me. I believe what he said, but I don't feel it because I know that I can't forgive and I can't get it out of my heart, so I'm pretty sure since I'm still mean and bitter and hateful and wanting to hurt people, that's probably how he's feeling about me.
23:44 Even though I am saved and even though he gave me his word, I can't enjoy it because the whole time I'm looking at you, I'm thinking he must be looking at me and so I'm missing out on what God has for me. I'm missing out on what God has for me. Real forgiveness has several steps involved in it. Second Corinthians chapter two, in verse six, the Bible says, sufficient to such a man is this punishment which was afflicted, inflicted of many so that contrary wise, you ought rather to forgive him. I wish you'd open your Bible there in Second Corinthians, chapter two, verses six and following, I want you to understand this guy, and this guy is probably the guy from first grade. They shocked her five who's been sleeping with his daddy's wife and he's been doing wrong, but he's decided to get his life right and they say, forgive him, forgive him, and then it says, comfort him. Look at verse seven, forgive him. Circle that. Verse Seventh, Comfort Him Sarco that comfort him.
24:47 Verse seven, don't let him be swallowed up with overmuch sorrow. Let him get over it. So amazing. Sometimes people do wrong and we say we forgive them, but we do whatever it takes to keep them feeling really down. We enjoy the power of saying you're forgiven, but we remember everything you did, you said, so let them get over that. Verse Eighty six, confirm your love. That means you're probably gonna. Have to hug them and love them and say it a thousand times so they'd be good to take. Maybe he loves me more than my failure reversed. Son Paul said, I'm watching to see the proof of you. I want to see if you're obedient. He says in verse nine, verse 11, he says, because if you don't forgive, Satan wins. I'll read you some things. I want you to think about that, but let me show you something, and churches are so full of hurt and bitter people.
25:46 We've been forgiven by God and I know you're saved up and praise God for grace and mercy, but we're holding on to all this junk. So we walk around with our guard up. We walk around thinking everybody's going to hit us and, and, and, and, and we don't forgive anybody who's done us wrong because even though we've been forgiven, we kinda don't believe we're forgiven. We kind of can't accept forgiveness, so it makes us wrong. The person had repented. They were forgiven to comfort him, to confirm their love, to make sure you didn't get swaddled up in too much sorrow. That means don't mention it again. Don't keep bringing it up. Don't do things that put focus on the failure, but rather on the victory. Can I stop and say that's why when Paul writes a letter to Christians, not one of his letters I've written to you centers at such and such church, every letters written to you sites, it's such such a church to use site defied to you called to be holy. You were like that, but you're not like that anymore. You've been washed and justify the plans. He doesn't bring up your junk. He brings up the new life he gave me. You say, hey man, he's a wonderful God. If they didn't forgive correctly site and was going to get an advantage, we are to forgive as we have been forgiven. Look at me, if you would at Colossians chapter three and verse 13,
27:13 forbearing one another and forgiving one another even as if any man have a quarrel against you even as Christ forgave you. So also, do you know Alyssa this, why don't you just write down some little notes about how you forgave us. He didn't forgive us for anything that we did. Now listen to me. Hey, he didn't forgive you because you got baptized. He didn't forgive you because you wrote your name on a church letter. He didn't forgive you because you prayed a certain prayer. He didn't forgive you that way. He forgave you because he was good. He didn't wait for you to love him. He loved you. First, we'll read the verses to you in a second. So when you forgive you, forgive first. You forget before they ever asked you, forgive if they deserve it or not. That's how you did it with us. Our prayer didn't get us forgiveness. We were forgiven because he is good.
28:12 God was in Christ reconciling the world to himself. Look with me at Second Corinthians chapter five and verse 19, to wet that God was in Christ, reconciling the world unto himself, not imputing their trespasses under them and have committed unto us the word of reconciliation. You See, God was in Christ so there wasn't this idea that the great God of Heaven was sitting up in heaven saying, I'm going to destroy them, and Jesus walks up to calm down. Jesus, come down, God, calm down. God, I'll go die for him. That's not the story. That's not the story. The story was at God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. They're all one it. When Jesus came down to God, God was in Christ, died on the cross. God loved you when you didn't deserve to be loved, when there's nothing globally about you, when you weren't even saved, when you weren't even born, when you hadn't even sand, he already loved you. That's what it says. God was in Christ. He loved us when we totally did not deserve it. We deserve the very opposite. Look at Romans chapter five and verse six, market in Your Bible, but when we were yet without strength, underline that. When did he love me? When I couldn't,
29:36 what? I just didn't have the muscles to do it. I just couldn't breathe. When I couldn't try the Mower, what? It was nothing left that I could do when I was without strength in due time, Christ died for the what helped me. What's it say? He died for the what? He didn't die for the godly. It ain't like God was up at him and said, I'm going to die for all you good people. God looked down and sent you a bunch of scumbags. You all deserve to go to hell and they not you do to save yourself, so I'm just going to die for you while you're without straight there. While you were ungodly out there for you.
30:11 Am I supposed to forgive? I was supposed to forgive like God did. For Christ's sake, can you say amen? Right there. Let's read another verse. Romans chapter five in verse eight, right there also, but God commanded his love toward us and while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. I think in my opinion, the sweetest word in Romans five, eight is yet we should put a circle around that word, yet wendy die for you. After you quit smoking, drinking, dancing, and go with them to do. After you got saved, baptized took the Lord Supper, fasted for 40 days. He gave a million dollars in the offering. He died for you while you were still a center, yet a sinner, a man. You were forgiven because Jesus took our consequences. The benefits of forgiving. When you learn to forgive, it releases you. It gets the focus off of you don't yet know what they did to me. Don't you know how I feel? Don't you realize what my first husband did to me? Don't you know what my first wife did to me? Don't you know what my dad did
31:24 to me? I mean me and me and me and me and me and me and me and me,
31:34 but if you forgive you, talking about you so much, it'll release you. You get the focus off of you forgiving others or maybe even your mom have their deficiency and hurts against you will bring healing to them and to you. We walk around so bitter. Everybody's hurting. This frees them as well as us. Before I go on, can I remind you? You're teaching your children how to treat you. I'll give you a hint. Your parents probably messed up. There are some things they said and did. They weren't quite right. They could've done a better job, but now you're a parent and your children have watched you hate your parents and now you're trying to learn how to hate you. When it started turning forgiveness might help you to say, man, happy mother's Day. Put yourself in their shoes. Consider what you say and think about when you mess up. It's amazing, isn't it? When I mess up, I know why I messed up. I mean I didn't mean to. I can look back at all the messes I made over the years. Men, I made so many the biggest center you'll ever know, but when I look back, I can say, man, I had good intentions.
33:16 When I was too rough on my children, I didn't mean to be too rough. I thought I was doing the right thing, so put yourself in the shoes of that person. Say, well, they were wrong. Well, maybe they were just stupid. Maybe they're blind. Maybe they didn't know any better. Maybe the devil's messing with them, whatever it was, because when you mess up, you're going to figure out why you did it. It's we're quick to let ourselves off the hook, aren't we? I mean, you had done something wrong yourself, but just having their shoes realize you owed a debt you couldn't pay. You remember you're in the story. You're not the poor little victim that owed $5,800. That's the story's not about that. In the story Jesus told you owe a 108 billion and it's you're a great salary that you're making right now. You ain't never go to get up to bill gates. I doubt he's got your personal phone number. I doubt you had separate with him this past week. I doubt treated in his friend's list. I bet on linkedin he ain't linked to you. I bet. Oh, facebook. He had made a friend out of you
34:30 because Bill Gates is like in another stratosphere from us and I'm the guy who owed 100, 8 billion. It's pretty hard. When you were raised in a good home like I was and your mom and dad took you to church and you never. You never did. All those big bad bully war were only things that people talk about. You could easily think you're pretty good. Do you think about how God sees you?
34:58 He writes stories in the Bible about who he hates it. He hates that proud look. That is a US baptists have more than he hates a lot of other things and we're kind of like, well, I never committed adultery and I never murdered anybody, and one of the first things he hates the book of proverbs. Is that proud? Look what we're good at, that one, aren't we? But it's an abomination to our God. We're the one. I need to look at myself and realized I owed a debt I couldn't pay. Realize that holding onto the grudge is hurting you worse than it is the other person. You're setting an example for your children and others to follow. Bitter Mamas that bitter babies unforgiving. Mama's have unforgiving babies back to is usually. Unforgiveness gets in between them and before it's over. It is your choice. You can choose to be a victim or you can choose to be a victor and forgive. Let me give you some steps real quick. I'm through. I believe with all your heart. That is God's will that you have forgive like he has forgiven you. Here's the wonderful thing. Did you know that I know more about your sanding? God knows about your Sam.
36:20 If we went to the God of Heaven Right now and said, do you remember when so and so did so and so God would say, uh, no, I don't you that with God. You know, wherever. He'd say, well, you know, I buried that in a sea of forgetfulness. I put that behind my back. I separate that as far from us. He says, from the West, I blotted it out. I nailed to a cross. Sorry, I don't remember what we remember. Forgiveness means to release them for what they owe you. Forgiveness means to give the gift of mercy. Forgiveness means to choose to move forward and not getting lost in your past.
37:10 A person you're holding a grudge against likely tried their best. They might not have handled things correctly. They were trying and doing what they knew to do. Can I just stop here and say this? For some of us you're saying, no, no. They were wicked and, and, and, and they mistreated me and that's why I'm like I am. And if I went to them, you know what they'd say. I didn't mean to me like I was made to me. And that's why I am like I am. And they just keep passing that bitterness own down. Don't they come on and tell the truth. He didn't. Time to stop. It it a time to just say it's over. We're not going to be like that anymore. They were unable to pay their. They're wrong. They couldn't pay you back for what they did. Run into that too much. The bitterness you're holding is hurting you and your children more than it hurts her mother, her dad, or cousin or uncle or the other person you hate. You choose. We choose to forgive or not. We could choose piece. We do not have to continue feeling like a victim. You listen to what? I will tell you, Jesus, they've done me wrong. We'll forgive him. Okay? I'll give up seven times off. Forgive him and he looks and goes seven. How about 70 times seven?
38:33 You said, well, I don't quite get that. He said, let me tell you a story about how much you owed me and I forgave you for I forgave you a 100, $8,000,000,000. Everybody you're beaten up south throws you 5,800. If you found a $180 billion dollar debt forgiven, would you be going around grabbing everybody you could? 5,000, $800 and you owe me. Yeah, you would because that's what we're doing
39:00 because we're still better. What'd you think about that person we started with? At the beginning of the message, I want you to realize what that person did to you. That ex husband, ex wife, that parent, that cousin, whoever it was, I want you to think about whatever they did. How does it compare to your 108 billion? Shouldn't you come say, man, I didn't deserve to be forgiven for the 100, 8 billion and I want enjoy my forgiveness. So I'm going to kick this off my chest. I'm going to release it. I'm going to let it go. I will quit focusing on me. We'll start focusing on Jesus. I'm going to start being grateful, not hateful.
39:41 Father in heaven, would you bless today? Would you help your people? Lord, I know that the message today may not have been the most pleasant, but I do think it was the most needful and I'm praying you'd help us as dads and moms and husbands and wives and children, cousins and neighbors and employees and bosses. God, I've failed you so many times. I've done more wrong to others and has ever been done to me. I've had such a smart Alec, Haughty Spirit, and yet you have forgiven me. I want to be a forgiver. No matter what people do to me. I want to be a forgive her because I know that what they've done is so much less so what I did, God help your people today.
40:28 With your heads bowed, your eyes closed. I'm really going to ask for it pretty straight. You know, you should come to this altar and just lay it on this altar and say, here's the bitterness. I've been failing. Here's the hatred I've been holding on to. Here's a bad attitude, so I've been having. Here's what's been causing me to have these physical ailments. Here's those big causes. Me To have marriage problems. I have been this person. I have been the guy that the scriptures talked about. I'm holding on to stuff, but today I'm not going to. Come on. Get out of your seat. Get up there and talk to him. He spoke to you. There's time to get rid of that junk. He spoke to you and it's time to get rid of that. Chuck was trying to be able to go home today knowing I'm not going to be like that anymore.
41:14 I ain't gonna. Lay It on the altar. I know they hurt you. Come up here and say, God, by your grace I forgive all. Go God, by your grace I forgive brother, by your grace. I forgive this other person by your grace, Lord. I'm going to walk away from here. Joy, the freedom of habit. You come on. Who else? Come on and say, I'm not going home the same way I came. Now, if you're in the room and you've never been saved, I'm not sure you'd go to heaven if you died, maybe the Holy Spirit of God with your heart, your stating this forgiveness, but you can today because he loves you. He died for you and he paid your sin debt and you can be forgiven for hearing. You're not saved and you wouldn't go to heaven if he died, but she would let somebody show you how it will show you today, how to know that forgiveness and you could trust cross for what he does on the cross for you. Would there be anybody? Hold her head up, say, pray for me, pastor, that'd be saved for a free, passionate. I get forgiveness. Anybody just hold? She had up real quickly.
42:09 Okay, thank you. I see your hand. Anybody else? Now? Let me ask this one more time. I really would ask you to come forgive. What's your husband do? What's your wife do? What's your neighbor do? What's your family member to come talk to the Lord. Let's get victory today. You can leave here at the victor, not the victim. You can leave here knowing Jesus is doing at work. Is there anybody else? Father, magnify yourself and your people's lives Prion, honored to your name, glorify yourself and I'll give you praise. I love you for the sweet, wonderful God you are. Thank you for your gift for forgiving me and I am so unworthy. God help me to live in debt forgiven. Thank you for being here. Happy Mother's Day. Wouldn't it make it a happier mothers tell you if we got that bitterness out, would it change our relationships at family reunion?
43:10 It's amazing sometimes that junk you're holding on to it how it's hurting you. I read a book not long ago about the boys of 1967. It was the boys at six seven, the Vietnam guys and this one guy came and showed up at the battlefield and on the first day he was in an accident and his legs got blown off and one of his friends pulled him off the battlefield and for the next 30 years he lived in mortal fear that that guy hated him. They had a reunion and when had the reunion, he'd felt guilt. For all those years, because he said, I should've been more careful. I should've helped him. I should have not let him step on that mind. I wasn't watching like I should have. And so when they were at the reunion and everybody was all gathered around, finally the guy came over to him and said, hey, aren't you so into it? He said, yes. I said, uh, said, I'm so sorry. I know you're mad at me. Oh, you hate me. You should hate you. If you had to drop me off at field, I'd be dead. I might not have legs, but I'm alive. Thanks to you. He lived in 30 years of a prison when he could've been free, and that's where you live and you don't have to have a good God. Let's enjoy that forgiveness. I get a amen right there.