Esther 1:22 For he sent letters into all the king’s provinces, into every province according to the writing thereof, and to every people after their language, that every man should bear rule in his own house, and that it should be published according to the language of every people.
I find this part of the Bible to be quite humorous. The king asked his wife to dance before him and his drunken friends. Vashti showed modesty and refused. She offended her husband. She challenged the authority of a man, her husband, and even more the king. The king was furious.
They were all drinking. The king felt the pride that came with his position. The men evidently taunted him about his wife not obeying. The alcohol was undoubtedly a big part of this fiasco, but that is a subject for another post. This post is about the bruised ego of the king. He was wrong to do what he did. His wrong had to embarrass him even more.
The king’s counselors give him the advice to pass a decree about women obeying and respecting their husbands. Their desire for such an order plainly shows their weaknesses and failures in loving and leading their homes.
Any man that needs a decree to get his wife to love him and follow him is a weak, no nothing man. God does say a man is the head of his family but that in no way implies that the woman is any less. Nor does it indicate that the man can run over his wife. Many have abused the Bible lesson about the home and marriage out of sinful pride. Weak men need to feel dominance. A godly woman will gladly submit to a man that loves and leads her as God commands us to do.
We are to give our lives in sacrifice. We are only to seek the best. We are to love our wives like we love our selves. There is no room for this false male dominance in the Bible. Our leadership should be godly and Christ-like. If we do not know how to treat our wives, then our prayer lives will be hindered.
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