Mark 3:33 And he answered them, saying, Who is my mother, or my brethren?
That title sure has some strong words in it! Jesus told us to hate our mother and everyone and everything else. The true meaning behind that hate was to love less. It meant to put another first. Here is an example of Jesus doing just that.
His mother has come to see Him. He is busy preaching. Does He make her the priority or God and what God wants? Jesus chooses God over mother. He loves God and hates mother. He is giving us an example of how we are to put Him first over all other things that we love!
So Jesus hated His mother just like you are supposed to! It is not the hate that hates but that says, mom, I choose Jesus over you! I must follow Him and do His will.