Mark 10:44 And whosoever of you will be the chiefest, shall be servant of all.
Biblical leadership is completely different than worldly or secular leadership. They rule over, we serve. As God prepares you to go as a missionary servant of His just remember that that is exactly how He would have you go.
Do not try to get them to follow or listen to you until you gain their respect. You have to earn the right to be heard or to lead.
If you are willing to die, to be a servant, to be less than the others in your own estimation then you can lead. Love and serve are the key words.