Esther 1:5 And when these days were expired, the king made a feast unto all the people that were present in Shushan the palace, both unto great and small, seven days, in the court of the garden of the king’s palace;
Ahasuerus the king was an abusive husband. His story is found in the book of Esther. As we look at the abuses he committed I want to challenge you to not fall into the same abuses.
The story starts with Ahasuerus getting drunk or at least enough to be happy Esther 1:10-11. He then decides to make a spectacle of his wife, Vashti, in front of his friends. She was pretty and why not have her come and show off her beauty for the men he was partying with.
Instead of talking to his wife and taking into consideration how she felt about being paraded in front of the men the king talks to his counselors (friends, people who find it very convenient to do what they think will make the king happy). Esther 1:13
The king’s advisors begin to tell him how what Vashti has done is not only bad for the king but for the entire kingdom. They want her made an example of so that their wives will learn to obey and respect them. Esther 1:16-17
Rather than earn the love and respect of their wives these men wanted it legislated from the top down, the government was going to make a law. Esther 1:19-20
The king and his friends wanted to be honored and obeyed in both small and great matters. Esther 1:20 S
o the end of the matter is that men will rule in their house and every body better know it. Esther 1:22
Several thoughts come to mind.
First, some of you just might think that Betty made me write this. Others might think it is about time that I learn the lesson but that is not the point of the study.
Second, some will think that I shouldn’t undermine the authority of husbands and that I am taking the side of the ladies!
But can I say that your wife should love, honor, respect, and submit to you because you are the kind of husband that any woman would want to follow.
Embarrassing our wives in public is never right! Showing off in any way that belittles or demeans her is completely wrong.
Getting her to do what she should by command or threat is totally out of place in a godly marriage. Discussing what to do with your wife among your buddies is ridiculous. So there are here maybe some things that you could consider so as not to fall into the trap of an abusive husband.
The God hating world already takes pot shots at His people due to our hunger to do what He says in our families. Submission is a bad word just about any where and many of us have helped the world draw that conclusion.
Let’s be loving and kind husbands.