Most people have â€œthe root of bitternessâ€ embedded deep in their hearts, and it keeps sprouting up as anger, depression, and defeat. But a Christian can turn that bitterness into godly joy and forgiveness in the following ways:
1. Repent of Temporal Values. You need to repent of the fact that your focus is on thingsâ€ you have lost (Colossians 3:1-3), instead of on Christ, and eternal things.
2. Resist Ungratefulness. Quit believing that â€œGod owes youâ€ and start thanking God for all that He does for you!
3. View the offender as Godâ€™s method of helping you. This is hard. God seeks to make you into a diamond for His treasury. But to make you, He uses both heat and pressure to form you – not destroy you! See Genesis 50:20, and Job 23:10.
4. Thank God for His ultimate purpose in your life! God wants to make you into a son or daughter that He can be proud of – and He does that by allowing you to go through troubles (Hebrews 11:16). Thank Him!
5. Realize the magnitude of difference between your sins against God, and the little offenses that are against you. God has forgiven you of so much – you can do it too (Ephesians 4:32).
6. Remember that God promises to punish the offender (Romans 12:19). Leave the pay-back to Him.
7. Voluntarily â€œinvestâ€ in your offender – do good to them (Romans 12:20,21). That is the basis of our joy and life (Matthew 5:40-48)!