Well I thought that I would take the time to give you a few ideas about how we might improve our home life and marriage. Each Sunday morning we have a class on this very subject. In the Home Improvement Class we talk about what the Bible says that would help us to be better spouses and I thought that I would take a few posts — maybe one each day for a few days and give you just a small taste of somethings that might be of interest. If you are not attending Sunday School and might be interested I would really love to have you come be part of our class.
Right Speaking will improve our relationship!
The Bible says in Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
How does that apply to your marriage? First we should be careful not to talk ugly, down, or insultingly to our spouses. One bad comment takes a lot of time and good comments to over come the negative effects. We can use “corrupt communication” even without saying words. We can do that with sighs, moans, and other sounds that we make. We can use corrupt communication by even facial expressions that we make. Our tone or inflection can also communicate things even if the words are right. Sarcasm doesn’t work in a love relationship! No matter who they are words do hurt and so corrupt communication is a definite enemy to our marriage and love life. Let’s make a conscious decision not to use corrupt communication!
Next let’s use words that are good and edifying or that build up our partner or our children. For every negative comment we make we should use dozens if not hundreds of positive comments. Make sure they are genuine. I have personally found that if you are thinking positively about your spouse that you will have very positive things to say. Our words should encourage, motivate, communicate our love, make feel good, put the Joel Osteen positive feeling on them. Compliment your spouse on the work that they do, their appearance, their character, their friendship, and a thousand other things that you can find to say if you are grateful, kind, and watching for the chance. Compliment them in front of others. You will not get far getting your spouse to change by saying critical things but if you will express love and acceptance they will far exceed what you could ever want or expect in a partner.
Our communication should minister grace or sweetness to the hearers. I hope that we will make a plan today to begin the sweetness treatment on our spouse.