Well this Sunday will be Father’s Day and I am really excited about this service. I am a dad 4 times over and I know how important the job is and I also know how difficult it is.
I thought that I would bring my study for this Sunday’s message right here in front of you and you can keep up with it. Maybe you will say that you do not need to come because you will know so much about the message coming up but I also think that I will have more to say than I would ever be able to say in just one message. This is going to be an exciting day. I hope that you will come and bring your family and friends.
Provoke not your children to wrath is one of the commands that God gives dads. Here is just a little of the thoughts that I have so far.
First I am very guilty of having provoked my children to wrath. I know what it is to be too mean, too hard, too demanding and so no dad that hears the message Sunday will be able to say that I am there to accuse them because it will be a time of painful confession on my part.
I just read where dads are more mechanical than relational many times and that can lead them to express anger more often. I am afraid that we want certain things from our children. It is even for their own good that we are asking or demanding them to do whatever we know to be best. Dads should remember to treat their wife and children in the same way that God has demanded of the pastor. I think that it would definitely help our relationships:
1Pe 5:2 Feed the flock of God which is among you, taking the oversight thereof, not by constraint, but willingly; not for filthy lucre, but of a ready mind;
1Pe 5:3 Neither as being lords over God’s heritage, but being ensamples to the flock.
Can I just walk you through my thoughts on this point. Children for a time may be forced to put up with behaviour from their parents that they do not like nor think is right but church people can leave a church–and they often do if a pastor doesn’t learn these lessons that might help us be both better parents and pastors too.
Feed–meet the needs of your children, spiritually, physically, emotionally, relationally, economically, and in every other way.
take the oversight–you are in charge and you should be looking at and watching over your children
not by constraint–we are in charge but that is not a demanding, forcing of our children–true leaders learn very quickly that you can’t really make people do very many things
but willingly–do you recognize that people will only follow a long time if they truly believe that it has merit and really is for their own good. What comes from forcing them–where is the joy–where is the love–though you believe that what you are doing is for their good remember willingly–they are not your employees
not for filthy lucre–never for gain–we raise our children for their good and not for our gain or our pride. We love them and desire their success–we know that we must guide them in such a way that they want it and it is not being forced on them by threat or harsh speaking
ready mind means that they volunteer for it of their own free will–we must make them want it and not try to force it on them–you may have the right to demand but if you are to follow what He says about leadership you will do it by making it their idea and their desire
Not lords –we aren’t to treat them as though we think that we are their king or monarch. We are not the slave owner–we come in love and not with a whip
we come giving them the example not the threat or the order
well I do not know what you think of this but I hope you will consider it and let me know what you think.
This is just step one in getting ready for Sunday morning